My 5 Step Plan for Eradicating Slut Shaming from American Culture

The cultural chasm between attitudes surrounding a man’s right to be a promiscuous versus a woman’s misguided decision to do the same thing reeks of cognitive dissonance. So much so that I have started to completely ignore it, yet I see that it is an attitude that is pervasive in American culture and therefore needs to be addressed. 

I would like to start this conversation by saying, as a promiscuous woman, I’m pretty sure that I’ve already fucked more dudes than a large chunk of these purported promiscuous men. What can I say – I’ve done my research, and I know how many women these dudes are fucking. Perhaps it’s this knowledge that lends to my rather vociferous scoffing at people’s propensity for slut shaming when it comes to women’s sexual practices, but maybe it’s also the fact that the people in my life don’t bat an eye at my weekend hobby of sleeping around. 

I’ve said this before, and I’ll say it again: the reason that a patriarchal social system supports the degradation of female sexual affluence is that men are too lazy (or perhaps too ignorant) to fully acquaint themselves with the vastness that is female sexuality. They have not properly learned how to engage with women on a carnal level that results in both parties being fully satisfied. They have not learned how to engage with women on an emotional level so as to prevent a woman from seeking other sexual partners. Therefore, their only resort to keeping a woman submissive, both sexually and domestically, is to reinforce a slut shaming attitude.

Basically, TL;DR: men are bad in bed. 

This is where the slut shaming mentality comes from, and the double standard of allowing men to be promiscuous while disavowing female sexual affluence is likewise derived from male insecurity in regards to their relationship with women. Men feel entitled to sexually conquer women because they have placed themselves in a position of power, and what do people do when they become powerful? They fuck whoever they want with no consequences. But it’s fucking whoever they want while simultaneously reinforcing the female insecurity about insecurity (which is an insecurity that they constructed by themselves, for themselves) that creates the chasm between popular attitudes towards male and female sexuality. 

However, it is our duty as women to subvert this imposed power dynamic. Rather than allowing men to dictate to us how we should utilize our sexuality, we should sleep with whomever we want and, rather than caving to the power dynamic, we should likewise be proud and vocal about our sexual decisions. We should not allow men to cloak our sexual decisions in shame. Instead, we should feel free to explore our sexuality without the ramification of being called a slut or a whore. If this is a freedom that you do not feel that you have, then you should find that freedom, you should take it, and you should rip it from their hands so that you can fully have that freedom. This is not a freedom that we will gain easily. This is a freedom that we will have to violently pry from their cold, dead hands. If that’s what it takes, then that’s what we should be willing to do. 

(And, while I’m aware that the above statement is a pretty extremist thing to say, I would just like to note that in the long standing American tradition of killing people in the name of freedom, isn’t that statement just another tribute to the mentality of kill or be killed that made America such a wonderful country in the first place? Yeah. I went there.)

Granted, it is each individual’s choice as to whether or not he or she wants to engage in promiscuous sexual behavior, but living in a culture that lauds male promiscuity while reviling female promiscuity is something that needs to be changed. Eradicating this mentality will only lend to the mending of the female-male relationship, which, in its current state, is fractured and uncomfortable. 

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