I’ve heard this one a lot. Probably because I run a ‘sex’ blog, and I guess if you’re trying to hang out with someone who says, “I can fuck whoever I want” and then does - I guess I see how that’s intimidating and also slightly emasculating. Admittedly my perspective on sexuality is borrowed almost entirely from outside observations of chauvinism, but I don’t regret that. 

I can see how it’s intimidating to try to get with someone who has no problem handing you a cold, cruel, unemotional piece of rejection. Someone who relishes saying no, someone who will judge you on your sexual performance, the size of your penis and the finesse of your game. Anything in those categories that are deemed subpar will probably be made known to all immediate acquaintances and also possibly on the Internet. Ruthless, I know, but I didn’t go to college so what else am I supposed to focus my intellectual prowess upon? 

I just want all you [men I consider fucking] to know that this is something everybody does all the time, and blog or no, every time you fuck someone you are getting judged on your sexual prowess. 

I’m sorry, that came out really harsh. Strike that. What I meant to say is, this is going to happen every time you have sex. It might work out, it might not, you might fuck up, I might fuck it up, and while by no means is my game immaculate (although I do strive), the same can be said about sexuality that can be said about business, money, and all other facets of life: put the fucking work in, and it will pay off. 

I know, sometimes you’ve had too much to drink and you can’t get it up. Some days just aren’t “on” days, and things just happen really quickly. That sucks for me, but the worst thing you can do in those situations is stand up, walk away and act like I wasn’t a victim of your physical shortcomings. A little bit of communication would be appreciated, as well as some oral sex as a means of compensation for my time and energy.

If you’re someone who’s not as sexually experienced as you’d like to be, don’t worry about it. As with the above, a willingness to communicate openly goes a long way, as well as research, studying, practice and creativity in bed. 

Sure, it’s also intimidating to be with a woman who can walk into a bar and instantly be swarmed with men who want to talk to her and whom she is going to talk to because social mores dictate that she maintain a public image of congeniality and approachability. But if you’re throwing down in the sack and otherwise treating her with respect, then you shouldn’t be threatened by a little competition. If she’s keeping it tight for you, then no sweat. If you’re fucking up, you’ll find out soon enough. 

In conclusion, I would like to say, if you are threatened by my or any other woman’s sexuality (or dude’s for that matter), I just want to know: what don’t you like about knowing that your dick can give a woman a wonderful orgasm? If you don’t know how to do it, study up, and you’ll figure it out eventually. In the meantime, being with a sexually experienced, sexually liberated woman who might have had more sexual partners than you have and is also younger than you - isn’t that at least worth trying for? Also, if she’s attractive and intelligent, yeah, they don’t exactly give that away for free, you kinda have to work for it, but won’t it be worth it? 

Although there is a high likelihood that you’ll be rejected…but, meh, just be a fucking adult and move on with your life. If you wanna play with the big girls then you have to be a big kid.